Thursday, October 2, 2008

And On and On It Goes

I had hoped to have a quiet holiday. My plan was to take my kids to synagogue followed by dropping them off at school and having a little R&R with my hubby. It was such a good good plan but it was not to be.

One of the teachers developed a very bad headache and was admitted into the hospital. She called one of the teachers and said they were testing her for (among other things) meningitis. The teachers became panicked and began staging a walk out. I ran to the school and tried to explain once again that even though the virus which is like a cold is contagious but the meningitis is not. This is the same conversation I had at my sons bedside in the hospital. But they said having my children there was contaminating everyone.

I called the Department of Health and had them explain my children were not contagious and once again talk to them about viral meningitis. They would not hear it. It was like a modern day witch hunt where my children where the ones being thrown on the pire. It was crazy.

At one point I broke down and started crying it didn't seem to matter to them at all. They seemed stuck in this ignorance where the facts where irrelevant and only their fear mattered. I had the DOH (Department of Health) several pediatricians and my child's doctor in the hospital explain things to them but they could only hear their fear. One teacher even called the DOH to verify that I didn't have a friend pose as a DOH official. It was unbelievable. It was a mob mentality and it was directed at my kids and myself. It was terrible and just very very ugly.

Silly me I thought people stood behind you in times of trouble. I thought co-workers supported each other when children get horribly sick. Instead they seem out to save there own skin even when there is no danger. My son was dying of dehydration not viral meningitis and that can happen with any illness. I would not bring my child to school with a deathly illness. Why would I?

Of course in the end the teacher did not have meningitis.

I however think I am on the verge of a breakdown.

47 comments:

Kristin H. said...

I'm so sorry. Fear is exactly what it is. It will, indeed, make the most sane of us act irrationally. You have the officials on your side. You hang in there.

leigh said...

wow! that's so crazy. sorry you had to go through all that. i'm so glad he's doing better though.

Anonymous said...

In this day and age of instant and overabundant information, I am still constantly amazed at what people don't know. I feel so sorry for you having to go through this so soon after your crisis. Maybe you're getting all of the bad stuff out of the way now an from now on, it will be DOWNhill.

Jade said...

My gosh!! Some people are so ignorant huh? I feel for you.

I am glad to hear he is okay now;)

Rebecca Ramsey said...

I'm so sorry that happened to you and your kids. People are so full of fear now that reason often takes a back seat. I really think this is a serious problem with our culture. It's not like that in many other cultures.
I'll step down off my soapbox before I get carried away!
Give yourself a hug for me.
Becky

Heather said...

Oh good Lord. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. I'm praying that things will get better.

Valarie said...

That is absolutely ridiculous that adults, Teachers, people who are in charge of teaching our children, are so ignorant of the facts that are presented to them. I might could understand their fear if the facts had not been presented to them, but to have the facts right there and then to become so barbarack as to blame you and your children. They need to grow up!

Ok, I am sorry for my outrage, but I hate it when people treat others in a way of such disregard.

Hugs and prayers going out to you.

Brooke said...

Ughh! Hang in there! I am so happy that your little one is so much better. I will pray for your family that this will all be over soon! Stay strong!
“You must be strong now. You must never give up. And when people make you cry and you are afraid of the dark, don't forget the light is always there.”

Kate @ Life As I Live It said...

UNbelievable. I'm just speechless that your co-workers would act like that.

I'm so sorry.

Kmommy said...

OMG! How awful for you! It's so sad how ignorant people are!

laughin said...

Come move down here. We need good, quality daycare providers and are a lot more level-headed.

Hugs.

TattingChic said...

Glad to hear the teacher didn't have meningitis and that is ridiculous the way everyone is behaving! So sorry to hear you are having such a hard time when what you need is support and a big hug from people around you!
I do not know you, nor can I be there, but here's a big ((hug)) from me, nonetheless.

Susan said...

I agree with the others, I am rendered speechless.. that adults who are supposed to be reasonably intelligent would be so fearful that they would act like this. I can see, perhaps one person being that unaware, but this astounds me. Were these co-workers transferred here from another part of the Galaxy?
Hang in there, we are here for you!

Michele said...

Isn't it amazing how supposedly intelligent people can act so ignorant? Yeah, I'm sure you had nothing better to do than get some friend to pose as a DOH official! I am sorry to hear you are being attacked like this. I have two words for them, and they ain't "Happy Birthday"--:-/

adrienne said...

What a story! I hope things calm down for you soon.

Ren said...

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with such ignorance. I hope that things get better for you and your family *hug*

April said...

Aw, I'm sorry. If you lived here, I would watch your babies for you. :-) Tell them all to sit and spin, goodness.

Barbara Swafford said...

Hi Suzie - You're title says it all. Your ordeal is going on and on. I pray this ends soon so you can get that well deserved R&R. My prayers are with you.

m said...

Nice to see he is doing better! Good things will be coming your way! Thank you for sharing!

April said...

I'm friggin' furious on your behalf!

We are THAT Family said...

Wow-that is awful. People can be so irrational.

I'm sorry your having such a hard time. Hang on to the end of that rope, k? The most important thing to remember is that your children are alive and that people are stupid.

Erin said...

I'm sorry for people's prejudices against your family. It's pretty ridiculous. Good luck!

Tales From the Eurovan said...

Suzie,

I am so sorry for all you have been through. It is so sad to have people around you be so negative and hurtful when what you could use is a little thing called kindness and understanding. Oh, I feel so bad for you. Please don't let all their negativity question who you are. You are a wonderful mother and the fact that they would question your choices just shows who they are. Stay strong and know that you are in all of our thoughts here in the bloggy world.

Take care,
Julie

Vered - MomGrind said...

"One teacher even called the DOH to verify that I didn't have a friend pose as a DOH official."

That's unbelievable!

I'm so sorry.

Brandi said...

Hang in there. And, if you can find it you, kill them with kindness!

MUSAorg said...

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Cello said...

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Queen-Size funny bone said...

where the hell was the person in charge who was suppose to take care of the panic by providing correct and trusted information. you should not have had to defend yourself or your children. You should write a letter to someone in power so this does not happen again. Feel better...

Veronica said...

Oh sweetie. Just, oh sweetie. I want to yell and scream and stomp for you.

The Mrs. said...

I'm so sorry that this is continuing to go on. You dealt with enough.

To prove that I'll stand behind you or beside you I'd share a drink with your son. Yes thats right I'd volunteer to share a drink with a backwashing toddler.

Never doubt our blogging friendship ;)

Don Mills Diva said...

Oh sweetie I am so sorry.

I wish I could reach through the internets and give you a big hug.

texasholly said...

Crap. Crap. Crap.
I am so sorry. Wish I could hug you and would do so without protective gear.

Annie said...

Wow. That's so unacceptable on so many levels.

WebMD is one of the worst things to ever happen. I'm convinced. People hear 'menegitis' and refuse to realize that there's more than one type.

I hate ignorance. I'm so sorry you had to deal with it on that level.

forgetfulone said...

That so totally "figures" in our world of fear. So sorry that happened. Get some rest. Tomorrow's a new day.

tiff said...

People can be seriously strange in the face of illness.
I'm so sorry they went on a witch hunt and that you are threadbare. It really is the last thing you need right now.

I really hope the hunters apologised to you when it was discovered it wasn't meningitis.

Prefers Her Fantasy Life said...

For crying out loud, do you actually need a note from your doctor?

I'm so sorry you had to go through the scare with your child, and now this crapola.

Vodka Mom said...

okay THAT'S IT. I am COMING OVER and going to that DAMN SCHOOL WITH YOU. Man, that pisses me off. If it's one thing I can't stand it's ignorance. plain and simple.

Heidi said...

That is unbelieveable! That makes me so mad FOR you!

the teach said...

OMG, Suzie! I'm so sorry! This is outlandish, what you're going through. Who are these people? Where is their charity, kindness and goodness? It's time to gather the wagons and you and your husband and children turn to each other for solace. Feel free to e-mail me anytime...

Kate Coveny Hood said...

That's incredible! Do your co-workers read your blog? Do they realize how monstrous they sound? Have they ever heard of Ryan White?

My Wonderful Men said...

You find out real quick in life who is behind you and who is behind you pushing you over the cliff. (if you know what I mean)

I can't believe some people to be so ignorant that if there WAS a problem, it would have been handled by the DOH they don't have to worry about that. Trust me they don't want an outbreak.

These adults work in this field and don't realize this???

The last thing you need is to deal with irrational workers. I would have freaked and told them here take this pink slip get your shit and get out!

Hang in there sweetie.

twinklescrapbooks said...

Suzie I really hope things get better. I am so sorry.
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Chimera said...

What the hell is going on? And where the hell was your boss?
Very very angry and peed off with the whole establishment. How dare they be so stupid over somethign so important? Fire them and get people with IQ's.
T xxx

Jess said...

Suzie, stopped over via MomGrind to see how things were going with your son. Saw this most recent post and am apalled at the behavior from those teachers!

I wonder of the DOH has pamphlets they could send out on the FACTS around V.M.?

Hang in there! Things are on the upswing at home, and these people will come to their senses in time. Don't let them get into your head!

--Jess

autumnesf said...

It's sad but a lot of this stems from the fact that we are losing faith in our medical and government/authority figures. They lie too much. I think more and more people are doubting what the authorities are telling us.

I really hope a big apology is coming your way. It was unexcusible what you went through!

Lance said...

This really is a sad story Suzie. Sad in that the world has entered a state of not caring for others. And for not trusting. By bringing this up here, you remind us all of what is truly important. Hopefully that will be seen where you are. Know that I am thinking of you during these difficult times.

Purpled Sky said...

Gawd! These people!!! I don't know what to say, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I cannot imagine the frustration you must have felt amidst this narrowmindedness and ignorance!

 
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